Hi all! It has been quite a while since I have posted in this area! I have been
E X T R E M E L Y busy organising my wedding (only 22 days… I’m not counting… HA) and I have not had time to even sit down and take a breath. Today I decided to take some time out of my day and talk about something that has been on my mind lately. It is something that I have caught myself doing quite a bit lately and since it is Summer here in Spain it is beach and pool season and I know many girls are doing exactly the same thing as me. So let’s have a chat!
Many people always tell me that I am extremely confident within myself and also ask me how they can become that confident within their bodies. The truth is that I have worked so very hard mentally (and physically) to get to where I am today and to feel the way I do about my body. Although most days I do wake up and feel extremely confident and show my body some love by picking out areas that I really like about myself, for example:
“Wow! My eyes are beautiful and big”
“Damn my bootay is popping today!”
“I am a very kind person. I love to help people in any way I can. What a beautiful trait”
I do wake up some days absolutely hating certain areas of my body and I’ll literally sit there pulling and tugging at my tummy thinking “if only I had a flat stomach everyday with a few abs showing through” or “Urgh freaking cellulite you can piss right off!”. Let’s just be real, we ALL have insecurities in terms of our bodies. It is inevitable. No matter how hard you work to fix one part of your body that you feel needs adjusting, when you are happy with that area you will find another area that you are not so happy with and it is just a vicious cycle. Even the most beautiful celebrities have insecurities about themselves, so remember it is not just you!
We are extremely hard on ourselves. We are all different. We are all unique. That part of your body that you are hating on is usually the part of your body that people admire when they look at you. I can almost hear you say “but in school people always tease me about this and about that”. FORGET ABOUT SCHOOL! When you are done with school whatever those bullies have said to you means absolutely nothing! It should mean nothing to you right now! Usually people pick on certain areas of your body because they are insecure about themselves and the body part they choose to bully you about is generally the area that they wish they had. I remember when I was in school I was always told that I had a “fat ass”, in those exact words. Obviously I became a little self-conscious about my buttocks but I now see the girls that used to say that crap to me, at the gym working on getting a BIGGER BUTT! Like seriously, are you going to take in what those people say and lose sleep over it?? I sure as hell wouldn’t because it DOESN’T. MEAN. ANYTHING.
One insecurity about my body is that I feel like my hips are too wide. I honestly look at my body and think “my hips are so big that it makes my body look disproportionate” and other people have told me “I really wish I had your body shape” or “wow your curves are amazing, I wish I had curves like yours!”
WE. ALL. DO. THIS.
We all wish we had something that someone else has! Doing this is not abnormal, it is actually completely normal! JLo does this. Kim K does this. Jennifer Lawrence does this. Everyone does this! In saying that this is normal it does not mean that it is fair to ourselves or our bodies. By doing this, we speak negatively to ourselves. Our minds work like muscle memory. If you are not used to training legs, well it is tough at the beginning and you don’t feel strong at all. However, if you keep training you become stronger and stronger. If one day you are injured or become ill and you have to stop training for a few weeks or months, when you come back to training, although you feel a lot weaker, it will never be as difficult to build up that strength again as it was the first time. Your mind works exactly the same! Repetition strengthens any aspect in life. Just like studying for an exam. You repeat everything to remember answers in your exam and no matter how much you think you have forgotten throughout the years, you will never completely forget anything you have repeated to yourself over and over again.
So why don’t we start being kind to ourselves and more positive and start loving our bodies for what they are. I would like for all of you reading to try and do something for me and most importantly for yourselves. Wake up every morning and look at yourself in the mirror, and this time instead of focusing on the areas that you don’t really fancy, focus on parts of your body that you love as you try and reach your goals of forming abs, or cutting your hair because your don’t particularly like the style. Doing this has made me change the way I feel and the way I treat my body. You should do the same!
In the comments tell me one of your insecurities and two things that you love about yourself 🙂
Have you read my transformation story?