ARE YOU SELF CONFIDENT?

Hi all! It has been quite a while since I have posted in this area! I have been
E X T R E M E L Y busy organising my wedding (only 22 days… I’m not counting… HA) and I have not had time to even sit down and take a breath. Today I decided to take some time out of my day and talk about something that has been on my mind lately. It is something that I have caught myself doing quite a bit lately and since it is Summer here in Spain it is beach and pool season and I know many girls are doing exactly the same thing as me. So let’s have a chat!

Many people always tell me that I am extremely confident within myself and also ask me how they can become that confident within their bodies. The truth is that I have worked so very hard mentally (and physically) to get to where I am today and to feel the way I do about my body. Although most days I do wake up and feel extremely confident and show my body some love by picking out areas that I really like about myself, for example:

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“Wow! My eyes are beautiful and big”

 

“Damn my bootay is popping today!”

 

“I am a very kind person. I love to help people in any way I can. What a beautiful trait”

 

 

 

 

I do wake up some days absolutely hating certain areas of my body and I’ll literally sit there pulling and tugging at my tummy thinking “if only I had a flat stomach everyday with a few abs showing through” or “Urgh freaking cellulite you can piss right off!”. Let’s just be real, we ALL have insecurities in terms of our bodies. It is inevitable. No matter how hard you work to fix one part of your body that you feel needs adjusting, when you are happy with that area you will find another area that you are not so happy with and it is just a vicious cycle. Even the most beautiful celebrities have insecurities about themselves, so remember it is not just you!

We are extremely hard on ourselves. We are all different. We are all unique. That part of your body that you are hating on is usually the part of your body that people admire when they look at you. I can almost hear you say “but in school people always tease me about this and about that”. FORGET ABOUT SCHOOL! When you are done with school whatever those bullies have said to you means absolutely nothing! It should mean nothing to you right now! Usually people pick on certain areas of your body because they are insecure about themselves and the body part they choose to bully you about is generally the area that they wish they had. I remember when I was in school I was always told that I had a “fat ass”, in those exact words. Obviously I became a little self-conscious about my buttocks but I now see the girls that used to say that crap to me, at the gym working on getting a BIGGER BUTT! Like seriously, are you going to take in what those people say and lose sleep over it?? I sure as hell wouldn’t because it DOESN’T. MEAN. ANYTHING.

One insecurity about my body is that I feel like my hips are too wide. I honestly look at my body and think “my hips are so big that it makes my body look disproportionate” and other people have told me “I really wish I had your body shape” or “wow your curves are amazing, I wish I had curves like yours!”

WE. ALL. DO. THIS.

We all wish we had something that someone else has! Doing this is not abnormal, it is actually completely normal! JLo does this. Kim K does this. Jennifer Lawrence does this. Everyone does this! In saying that this is normal it does not mean that it is fair to ourselves or our bodies. By doing this, we speak negatively to ourselves. Our minds work like muscle memory. If you are not used to training legs, well it is tough at the beginning and you don’t feel strong at all. However, if you keep training you become stronger and stronger. If one day you are injured or become ill and you have to stop training for a few weeks or months, when you come back to training, although you feel a lot weaker, it will never be as difficult to build up that strength again as it was the first time. Your mind works exactly the same! Repetition strengthens any aspect in life. Just like studying for an exam. You repeat everything to remember answers in your exam and no matter how much you think you have forgotten throughout the years, you will never completely forget anything you have repeated to yourself over and over again.

So why don’t we start being kind to ourselves and more positive and start loving our bodies for what they are. I would like for all of you reading to try and do something for me and most importantly for yourselves. Wake up every morning and look at yourself in the mirror, and this time instead of focusing on the areas that you don’t really fancy, focus on parts of your body that you love as you try and reach your goals of forming abs, or cutting your hair because your don’t particularly like the style. Doing this has made me change the way I feel and the way I treat my body. You should do the same!

In the comments tell me one of your insecurities and two things that you love about yourself 🙂

Have you read my transformation story?

Talia ❤

 

 

 

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Before & After (2011-2016) – My change to a healthier lifestyle

I know these photos are pretty far apart but I have been on and off with my healthy eating and workout routines the past few years therefore I haven’t had drastic changes in just a few months. I have worked so hard to get to where I am now and I could not be happier. I am in no way saying that I absolutely love the way I look right now and that there is nothing I want to change, I mean I still have a long way to go in terms of loosing a little bit more weight and toning my body, but I am looking and feeling a lot better than I did a few years ago!

When looking at before and after pictures of myself I do not only look at my physical appearance but I also associate the way I look in the photos with how I was feeling both mentally and emotionally at that particular time of my life.

Back in 2011 I was not happy at all with the way I looked. I did not particularly like getting photos taken of me because I felt embarrassed and I forced myself to smile. Although at this time I was not going through a bad situation I just felt down about my weight, my belly, my arms and legs and I just wanted to hide them all the time because I felt extremely uncomfortable! (I’m not playing the woe me card at all, I’m just explaining how I was feeling at the time in order to compare the difference from then to now). I was feeling lethargic all the time and just really weak. I tried to go on a diet and eat less and healthier foods but I was always discouraged because I never saw a difference so I would just give up, get upset, complain and continue not caring about what foods I consumed. When you are feeling this way emotionally it is extremely difficult to change the way you think about eating the right foods and also being patient about noticing results. I always expected results right away. I did not know anything about having a balanced diet back then, I just thought that not eating would help me lose weight. I would not eat much for a few days so I was always really hungry and that is how I became discouraged because when I didn’t see results in two days I would binge eat and what a shock, I wouldn’t lose the weight! I knew that I needed to make a change but now looking back I just didn’t have the confidence and the willpower to commit to a healthy lifestyle.
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In the year of 2013 is where I felt that my life changed for the better in terms of weight loss. At this time I went on a bit of an emotional roller coaster ride, I went through a bit of depression and my anxiety was at its peak due to a few things that happened that year. To try and deal with all of this I decided to turn to YouTube and found Blogilates. I would literally sit there on the couch and watch Casey’s workout videos; I wouldn’t just watch five seconds of the video I would watch the entire 10-15 minutes without even doing the workout myself. I saw how happy she looked and sounded while doing the exercises and I also read the comments on her videos and read about how happy people were about the results they were seeing from doing her workouts which in turn made me feel happier so I decided to one day give it a go. I bought myself a cheap yoga mat from Kmart and put on her ‘Pilates for Beginners’ video and started following her instructions. It was damn hard but I got through it and after that workout I was hooked! I guess you could say I turned a little Khloé Kardashian getting really into my workouts (a slight exaggeration but you know what I mean, right?) I could not and did not want to stop working out! I was working out every day doing at least five Blogilates videos a day and then I realised that Casey released a workout calendar every month stating which workouts to do every day so I then began to follow these calenders and added 20 minutes of cardio which was running on the treadmill (I did start off with walking and running until I was able to jog the entire 20 minutes 🙂 ). I felt so good! I loved the pain the days following a good hardcore workout and I just loved feeling the sweat drip from my body! Gross but true.

I also slowly started going to the gym which I never wanted to step foot in due to my anxiety of being in a closed space with many people that seemed to know exactly what they were doing. I would literally work up a sweat before I even stepped foot in the gym. But I did it and I can now walk into a gym by myself with no issues 😀 I just suddenly woke up to myself and realised that everyone that goes to the gym is there for the same reasons as me – for results and to live a healthier lifestyle.

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Fast forward to now, February 2016, and I am feeling amazing! I am starting to really like the way I look and I am absolutely loving the way I am feeling. I now know the importance of having a balanced diet! Working out has become a big part of my life and I cannot see myself stopping. Exercising and feeding my body the right foods has made me feel less lethargic, happier and has helped me sleep so good throughout the night! I have also started attending F45 sessions which are INTENSE but absolutely amazing. If you like to SWEAT and feel those muscles shake by the end of a workout I definitely recommend looking into taking up some F45 classes, you will not be disappointed! I now spend my money on workout attire because I have become a bit obsessed with working out… I love it!

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I hope you enjoyed reading about my change throughout the years to a healthier me. I would like to thank one of my best friends Alyssa who has helped me so much this past year with pushing me to do things that are out of my comfort zone in terms of exercising and for always supporting me and helping me get through my “I can’t do this” phases. If you are wanting to make a change toward a healthier you, take the plunge! It took me a few years to get to where I am but if I can do it I am 110% CERTAIN that you can do it as well. Go out and by yourself some cute workout clothes and a good pair of runners (Asics is the way to go) and also watch peoples transformations on YouTube or download the Blogilates app to be a part of the Blogilates community, by doing these things it motivates you to go hard and it will help you realise that you have to work hard and be patient to notice results 🙂

If you would like know more about my workouts and healthy eating let me know in the comments 🙂

“Love yourself enough to
live a healthier lifestyle”

Talia xo